Loving as God Loves

Love is a word that is often spoken but seldom understood in its fullest depth. In our human nature, we find it easy to love those who are kind to us, those who bring joy into our lives, and those who share our values. However, love becomes far more challenging when it is directed toward those who oppose us, mistreat us, or even seek to harm us. The world teaches us that love should be given to those who deserve it, while hatred and resentment are justifiable toward those who have wronged us. Yet, Jesus calls us to a higher standard, one that defies human instinct and reflects the very heart of God. In Matthew 5:43-45, He challenges us with these radical words: “You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike.” With this profound teaching, Jesus shifts our understanding of love from an emotion driven by circumstances to an action rooted in obedience to God. This kind of love is not based on merit but is an outpouring of divine grace—a love that extends beyond our natural inclinations and mirrors the very character of our Heavenly Father. Today, let us examine this command to love our enemies, understanding why Jesus calls us to this difficult yet transformative way of living and how we, as His disciples, can embody the love of God in a world that desperately needs it.

From the very beginning, humanity has struggled with the concept of love beyond reciprocity. The common understanding among the Jewish people in Jesus’ day was shaped by a selective interpretation of the Law. The command to "love your neighbor" (Leviticus 19:18) was well known, but many had added their own justification for hating their enemies. The religious leaders of the time permitted a mindset that categorized people—some were worthy of love, while others could be despised. This created a culture where love was conditional and often limited to those within one's own circle, whether that be family, friends, or fellow Israelites.

But Jesus shattered this distorted view by presenting God’s standard: "But I say, love your enemies!" This command is radical because it calls us to extend love to those who have no claim to it. Jesus does not merely suggest avoiding hatred; He calls for an active, intentional love toward even those who oppose us. This love is not based on how we feel but on a conscious decision to reflect the nature of God. Jesus reinforces this command by telling us to pray for those who persecute us. Prayer is a powerful act because it not only intercedes for the other person but also transforms our own hearts. When we pray for those who hurt us, we allow God to work within us, softening resentment and replacing it with His divine love.

Jesus provides the ultimate example of this love. On the cross, in the midst of excruciating suffering, He prayed for His executioners, saying, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). In that moment, Jesus demonstrated the very essence of divine love—undeserved, sacrificial, and overflowing with grace. If we are to follow Him, we must learn to love not just those who are easy to love, but also those who challenge us, hurt us, or oppose us. True discipleship is not measured by how well we love our friends, but by how well we love our enemies.

Jesus does not call us to love our enemies simply as an act of moral virtue; rather, He ties this command directly to our identity as children of God. He declares, “In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven” (Matthew 5:45, NLT). This means that loving our enemies is not just an expectation but a defining characteristic of those who belong to God. Just as a child naturally resembles their parent, so too should believers reflect the nature of their Heavenly Father. And what is that nature? It is a love that is impartial, boundless, and undeserved.

Jesus illustrates this truth by pointing to God’s providence: “For He gives His sunlight to both the evil and the good, and He sends rain on the just and the unjust alike.” In other words, God does not withhold His blessings based on human merit. He does not reserve the warmth of the sun or the life-giving rain only for the righteous while punishing the wicked with barrenness. Instead, He extends His grace to all, regardless of their response to Him. If God, in His perfection, shows love to both the just and the unjust, how much more should we, as His followers, seek to imitate that love in our daily lives?

Loving our enemies is not just an act of obedience; it is a witness to the world. When we love as God loves, we stand apart from the ways of this world. In a culture driven by division, retaliation, and self-interest, Christ-like love is a beacon of God’s presence. It speaks of a higher reality, a kingdom not ruled by hatred but by grace. When believers choose to forgive rather than seek revenge, to pray rather than curse, and to extend kindness rather than hostility, they point others to the transformative power of the Gospel. This kind of love is not easy, nor is it natural, but it is divine. And when we live in this way, we reveal to the world that we are indeed children of our Father in heaven.

Loving our enemies is a command that is easy to understand but difficult to practice. It goes against our natural instincts, which seek justice, retribution, or self-preservation. However, Jesus does not give us this command without also showing us how to live it out. Love, in the biblical sense, is not merely a feeling but an active choice to reflect God’s grace and mercy. Below are five practical ways we can cultivate and demonstrate love for those who oppose us:

The first step in loving our enemies is to bring them before God in prayer. Jesus specifically commands us to “pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44). When we pray for our enemies, we surrender our bitterness to God and allow Him to work in both their hearts and ours. Prayer softens the soil of our hearts, making room for forgiveness and healing. It also reminds us that our enemies, like us, are people in need of God’s grace.

Forgiveness is at the heart of loving our enemies. Holding onto resentment only hardens our hearts and distances us from God’s love. Ephesians 4:32 instructs us, “Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” True forgiveness does not excuse wrongdoing, but it releases us from the burden of hatred and entrusts justice to God.

Jesus did not merely tolerate sinners; He actively showed them love. Loving our enemies means looking for ways to be kind, even when kindness is undeserved. Proverbs 25:21-22 echoes this truth: “If your enemies are hungry, give them food to eat. If they are thirsty, give them water to drink. You will heap burning coals of shame on their heads, and the Lord will reward you.” Kindness has the power to disarm hostility and reveal the love of Christ in a tangible way.

The world tells us to fight back when wronged, but Jesus teaches us to respond with peace. Romans 12:17-18 reminds us, “Never pay back evil with more evil... Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” Our words have the power to either fuel conflict or bring healing. Choosing peace does not mean we ignore injustice, but it does mean that we respond in a way that reflects Christ’s love rather than our own anger.

The greatest motivation for loving our enemies is remembering that we were once enemies of God. Romans 5:8 declares, “But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” If God loved us at our worst, how can we refuse to love those who wrong us? Following Christ means embracing His way of love, even when it is difficult.

Loving our enemies is not about changing them—it is about allowing God to change us. When we follow these biblical principles, we move beyond human nature and step into the divine calling to be true children of our Father in heaven.

Loving our enemies is one of the most challenging commands Jesus gives, yet it is also one of the most powerful ways we can reflect the character of God. The world tells us that love should be reserved for those who deserve it, but Jesus calls us to a higher standard—one that mirrors the unconditional love of our Heavenly Father. When we choose to love our enemies, pray for those who persecute us, and extend kindness even to those who oppose us, we step into the divine nature of God’s love. This kind of love is not weak; it is transformative. It is the same love that led Jesus to the cross, where He prayed for His executioners and bore the sins of those who rejected Him.

So now, the question is not whether we understand this teaching, but whether we will live it. Who in your life is difficult to love? Is there someone who has wronged you, hurt you, or stands against you? Will you choose today to pray for them, forgive them, and love them as Christ loves you? The path of love is not easy, but it is the path of the cross—the path that leads to true freedom, healing, and a deeper relationship with God.

As you go forward, commit to this call of Christ. Be a living testimony of His grace in a world desperate for His love. Choose to love beyond what is natural, and in doing so, reveal the heart of our Father in heaven.

May the Lord strengthen your faith and use it for His glory, as you walk humbly in His presence.